1)Quit your convo with the person -Stop talking about the other person… (if it never leaves my mouth it never leaves my mind)
2)Understand your role in the relationship and in the break up….
-Wut did I do wrong (be true about wut you did)
3)Inform GOD of how you feel about the relationship…
-the Lord can only help you when u tell him your hurt
(tell GOD your feelings and how u feel)
4)Carryout his instructions
-be able to bounce back
(Get up and really live now)
5) Keep it Moving
-the biggest pay back is being successful
(when they tell u you u can go you are free)
When I look into his eyes I can see he’s been hurt but it’s ok I’ll take care of you if you let me.. I’ve been hurt too.
-Everyone is tempted at some point in life some just aren’t honest about it
-purpose of temptation is to pull u down away from God
-purpose of testing you with temptation is to prove that you have the glory of God in you
-know your flesh don’t let the devil take something good and turn it into sin
3 stages of temptation
1. Devil uses something to create thoughts
*mind starts wondering
*don’t allow your thinking to create ideas
2 Corinthians 10:5
*whatever you focus on will develop
2.generate actions toward those thoughts
*start doing stuff
*once you take action you have to deal with the consequences
1 Corinthians 9:27
*must talk to self and realign yourself before you take action on these thoughts
3. Produces death (spiritual)
*joy of the Lord and anointing dies in you
*come face to face with your behavior
*one act can set you wayyy back
“what was life like before I knew God?”
*when you’re spiritually dead you can’t make a kingdom impact
Solution to temptation troubles:::
*you can recover no matter how bad it is God will pick u up
-forgive yourself bring it to God he forgives you fully
1 John 2:1
-if any man be in Christ…..
First lets use Webster to define unapproachable as it pertains to a person…
Unapproachable - not welcoming or friendly
Now let’s define it using terms that a random person would use..
Unapproachable - powerful, sassy, too hard to win over, extra aggressive for no reason, too strong minded and independent.
After reading a blog by Bill Cammack and thinking about my own personal experiences I decided to blog on if pretty girls are really unapproachable.
How can anyone be unapproachable tho? Just because that person isn’t smiling at that point of time that you laid eyes on them doesn’t mean that they aren’t friendly. A straight face doesn’t necessarily mean “I’m having a bad day don’t f with me” and a smiling face doesn’t mean ” I’m a nice person and easy to deal with”
I met this guy not too long ago and he told me that I was really pretty and that he was afraid to approach me because I look like I swallow men up and spit them out whole. Lol it was actually kind of funny and he was impressed that he even made me smile off that comment. But I met another guy (white guy) just the other day and he walked past me and said ” I would like to say good morning but you look like you’re thinking don’t say shit to me keep moving ” lol that was funny to me as well I giggled and even though I’m really not a morning person I’m not hateful. People that I’m mean to have to have crossed me or made me feel some negative way towards them.
I admit I’m not the woman at the social
that you’ll see smiling and joking with every random person that walks by. However I am that person that you’ll see off to the side having a deep intelligent convo with someone who had the heart to walk up to me.
Now on this whole unapproachable title like really is that an excuse for guys not to try and “court” with a woman? As a man where is your masculinity and pride. A man should be fearless a man should have the type of aggressive that in his mind he thinks “no matter how mean or unapproachable she may seem I know I can get to her heart”. Men are suppose to be charmers. It’s gotten to the point that some women have become so easy and that why men feel that the one who isn’t cheesing down is so intimidating.. Honestly I don’t like cowards therefore if a man is that intimidated by a pretty girl that seems to be unapproachable then he doesn’t deserve her. He doesn’t even deserve the title as “man”. We all hate to be rejected but men should be as confident as a lion and know that when you walk into a room you dominate all.
Women (pretty girls) how do you feel about the excuse that “you’re unapproachable”
Men what is your intake on unapproachable women. Why let that be an excuse. Where is the thrill and the risk you take when going after the woman of your dreams?
Yes this is an extremely old pic (abt 2yrs)
I posted it cause I’m at working looking at trips to the beach. If I was in Hawaii right now this is what I’d be doing.
What would you be doing ?
Not all women feel like they need to have the “girlfriend” title when dealing with a significant other. Some of us don’t like the title. it brings more stress if you ask me.
Don’t get me wrong there are lots of us women out there that dwell on titles though. I’m not 100% sure why but maybe it gives a feeling of security in regards to the relationship.. And where she stands with you.
Men have tendencies of practicing relationship tactics in non-relationships. But as women we only go so far therefore in the case of the women that dig titles, she’s not going to show you her best until she is sure on if she’s your “gf” or just your “boo”
We all really know why women like titles though to some degree. Most women want to get married or have something serious that will lead to that but without titles how is she suppose to know really where the situation is going.. The real question is why don’t men like titles? Is it the commitment that comes with the word girlfriend or boyfriend?
Men I would love to hear your response to this
“No Strings Attached” poses the question: Is it possible to regularly have sex with someone and not run a risk of falling in love…
Honestly I think the answer is yes. Although there has always been a question on whether a woman can really have sex with a guy and never develop feelings, I still believe that the no strings attached policy is possible. Think about this.. A guy and a girl going In two different directions looking for something totally different in life… They meet they talk they both agree that sexually they’re lacking. Finally the decision comes alone that hey maybe we can be each others guinea pig; being each other’s victim doing whatever however (sexually) that is desired. No relationship, no “boo” status, nothing more no thing less strictly business. They have sex occasionally while still waiting on their mr and mrs right. I mean it’s almost like a best friend situation, don’t you hold your best friend down? Well this is the same you’re making sure he’s straight just like he’s making sure you’re good too.
What do you think? How do you feel? Is the no strings attached just a decorative name for “I just want to FCUK you but I don’t want you to think I like you” or is it really possible to have a friend that you decide to mutually satisfy each other sexually..
Experience shows that not sleeping with others is the foolproof way of not getting too hung up, etc.
How do men decide on who to use condoms with and who not to use a condom with? Having sex without a condom use to mean “I’m not having sex with anyone but you” it use to be a symbol that was significant to couples. Now guys just raw every girl they have sex with. Or do they? How do you decide though? Does it depend on how pretty she is? How settle her life is (job, own house)? It can’t be dependent on if she is on birth control or not (trust me I’m sure).
Is it that men don’t use a condom with certain females because they don’t want her to think that he is having sex with others?
This is a question that I ways wonder the answer too. Almost all men have condoms in their truck or wallets etc etc but yet when it’s time you don’t use it? What makes you so adamant to go in naked?
“it all happens so fast, blink of an eye. one moment you’re sitting home with him or on the phone laughing, joking, talking about your future together. Then all of a sudden that evening, that night he doesn’t respond to your text immediately and when he does he replies ‘I just wanna be friends’ that’s when it happens the storm begins.”
What happened in between those few hours that you weren’t by his side?!? You ask him and his response is some stupid random nonsense like ” I’m not trying to get too serious I told you I didn’t want a relationship” you stop and think like wait, what???
Could he be serious? But thought? But we were just? Yelp there you have it you do everything that couple do for months and then one day He decides he doesn’t want to do it anymore. But why though? Why go entertain and flatter then turn around and say it’s not what you want? I didnt ask for this you did it on your own.. And to be friends means what?? “we are going to do everything we did before we just not in a relationship” you can save that! I mean why would you put me through the pain and temptation?
Why do men lead women on why fully commit to her for months, a year and then out the blue end it with no reasonable explanation? Is there something we miss? Something that every woman’s ears are deaf to that men say? Yes I heard you say your name I heard you say I was the one but did I black out before you said that in a few months you would become distant and non-responsive?
Ladies we have to be more careful when it comes to situations like this. But how? Shouldn’t it start with the men first? Yes it should (my opinion)! Even the most guarded women has had her feeling hurt due to a committed but non committed relationship gone friendship.
As females we really worry about the wrong things when it comes to our boo.
You chilling with your boo everything is all good. Yea he was acting funny last week but you still like him so no biggie. You been lurking found a few chicks he was messing with so as you lay with him you get to wondering. Conversation stops it gets quiet so you try to be slick and throw it out there that you know about her, the other one, oh and that one (yea her). He Denys them all he Denys everything. In your mind you’re thinking, you’re thinking, you’re thiinnkkiinng. You want to believe but then you don’t know. You fall asleep next to him.
That’s where we mess up. Instead of playing this game or trying to get him to let it all out we should be enjoying the moment. Like an ol friend once told me. “when you’re with him let it be about y’all don’t bring up anything but you and him. Everything else is irrelevant when y’all ate together spending quality time. Make the most of it, enjoy the moment”